The Role Of Problem Solving

One skill that is very helpful for individuals and newlywed couples is the ability to problem solve. Problem Solving is useful throughout all aspects of life, individuals as well as couples need to master this very important skill. Problem solving should be developed before marriage because marriage will present many obstacles and need the skill of problem solving. When couples have arguments, are deciding whether or not to have children, or when they decide to purchase a house; problem solving skills will be in high demand.

Individual problem solving skills before marriage are important, these skills can be used to solve dating conflict, deciding what career path to take, and when is the appropriate time to start or stop dating. Problem solving skills are lifelong assets that will be of constant use. When a couple marries and they do not have problem solving skills the marriage can become a source of stress as conflict will ensue and breed negativity between the couple. 

Adequate problem solving skills should include the following: maturing in the area of thinking, the ability to work as a team, and the ability to see both sides of every problem or opinion. A free thinking mature individual should be able to problem solve individually and with their spouse. Individual problem solving shows a sign of autonomy and maturity.

Loving Through The Distance

Relationships are difficult, if distance is added to the equation the difficulties may become magnified. Relationship distance can occur for several reasons, we have to be mindful of signing up for relationships where distance is a part of the equation. Often people enter relationships with good intentions, but later complain and become resentful of their partner. This then becomes an unfair situation. There are several adequate reasons for distance in a relationship, such as individuals who serve in our countries’ military, those who travel for work purposes, and those who are temporarily taking care of a loved one.

When we are in a relationship with someone who travels for work often, we owe it to them to be supportive, encouraging, and grateful. Especially if we knew ahead of time that our love one has a position that requires travel.  Some separation can be healthy, in that it allows us to appreciate the other  person and the quality of the relationship. When someone is not a part of our daily routine will are then able to realize how much of a major role they play in our lives. Time spent together becomes more deliberate, planned, and appreciated. When we are away from our loved ones we have very little time to sweat the small stuff when we are together.  Distance can foster needed independence that some couples need; getting out of our comfort zone allows us to broaden our coping skill set.

One major advantage of being separated from our love ones is that we get the opportunity to engage in the loss art of courting and engaging in meaningful conversation. When we are apart we have to concentrate more on conversation, this is a loss art.  Many couples do not know how to communicate and do not value conversation. With advances in technology we often overlook the benefits of a good old fashion conversation; which can allow us to increase intimacy and lessen conflict.

Here are some tips for loving through the distance:

  1. Utilize technology such as Skype, text, E-Cards etc to communicate.
  2. Instead of focusing on the distance, focus on the positive, such as career advancement, more money, or service to country.
  3. Rekindle the old flame that originally bought you together.
  4. Take advantage of the time apart, do something that you normally would not be able to do.