When The One Becomes Two……

When an individual decides to marry and become two some things are bound to change. The idea of becoming two simply means that the newly formed couple works as a team; the two individuals now consult each other before making decisions as to insure they are not being inconsiderate. It is important for the process of bonding to take place so that the marriage has a firm foundation. After the two individuals have become two it is also equally important for the two to maintain some individuality. For instance, each one should take time for self by maintaining friendships, alone time, and hobbies. When a married couple does not have an outlet to release energy and creativity then stress will build within the relationship. A well-rounded couple consist of those who can function within the relationship as well as outside of the relationship. Don’t allow your spouse to become your safety net; thus allowing your activities and friendships to wither away. 

Happy Bonding!

Painless Dating

Dating can be exciting and fun, it can also be painful and confusing if one does not date with a plan in mind.  The pain that is sometimes experienced can be eased if one dates with an agenda.  Having an agenda reduces stress, confusion, and  hurt feelings.  Having a dating agenda simplifies the entire dating process. Be sure when you date you understand your purpose for dating and the purpose of the other person, dating should not turn into a long painstaking ordeal. Here are some helpful tips for dating made easy.

  1. Have an agenda: it is imperative to know why you are dating, whether you date for companionship or marriage, be sure to know ahead of time. Don’t be naive, remember some people simply date for casual reasons, be sure to know your dates intentions.
  2. You are either married or single (I once heard someone say): do not place unrealistic expectations upon the person you are dating.  True commitment can only come from marriage. Don’t waste time and emotions pretending that someone you are dating casually has a commitment to fidelity, especially if you have not defined fidelity within the relationship.
  3. Teach your date how to treat you: opening the door for a woman, not calling after a certain time, speaking in a respectful manner etc. starts with the first encounter.
  4. Know what you are bringing to the table? Be sure that you meet all the requirements and expectations that you have for the person you are dating. It is selfish to have a list of wants or demands of someone else that you cannot fulfill in return.
  5. Be honest: don’t hide or omit information simply because you are afraid that the person you are dating may not be able to accept your truth.
  6. Ask the important curious questions up front: Are you dating anyone else? Are you married? Are you ok if I date other people?
  7. Take it slow and easy: try taking your time to get to know the other person before making important decisions.

Please add your dating tips to the list!